When life triggers you and what to do about it.

We all have them...that one person or one situation that just sets you right off. It might be the tone that they use when they talk to you, the way they communicate (or dont communicate), it might seem that you're carrying the baggage, making all the effort, you're going unheard or fighting to make a point. In the end you feel rotten, down in the dumps or boiling with anger.
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In the moment you experience the trigger you might feel as though you have heen hijacked by your emotions and thoughts, finding yourself saying things and acting in a way you normally wouldn't.

Emotions take over, creating a physiological response that feels like fire in your body, heat rising, strangled, lost or anxious.
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Believe it or not, we can get a hold of this moment and we can feel ourselves in charge again. We can practice taking back our power by holding space for ourselves when we feel out of control, but first is learning to self-care as the number one response instead of reacting and acting out.
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With willingness, focus, attention, self-awareness, self-compassion and patience we can overcome the power of the trigger and feel empowered to be the master of our mind, body and emotions.
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Try these suggestions as a way to get started on the jouney to a better response to dealing with challenging situations.
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TIPS:
1. Acknowledge your emotions - "right now Im feeling..."
2. Acknowledge your throught - "right now my thoughts are negative..."
3. Express your energy safely by going outdoors for a walk, for fresh air, exercise, run, breathe deep, dance, box, scream into a pillow even!
4. Stop the momentum of negative thoughts by asking yourself "is what Im thinking true?", distract yourself with good feeling things.
5. If you stil dont feel better, repeat 3 and 4 until you do.
6 and 7. Once all your negative thoughts and emotions have gone and you are feeling calm, approach the situation, articulate what you would prefer & from a place of compassion. Leave the expectations at the door!
8. Once yoive communicated, let it all go. TRUST that the situation will be amended / or that the other person has heard you. LET GO and allow.

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For coaching and guidance on something you might be going through, feel free to get in touch with Coach Jo Anne Zamora for a complimentary 15-minute discovery call.