New Years Resolutions, and why they aren't working for you!
New Years Resolutions and why they aren’t working for you!
Themes: Resolutions, self-development
Its Feb 1, 2020. When you look back on January, how did you really go with those new years resolutions you set? Some of you, maybe excellent, others so-so, but most of us…real crappy!
To understand why those resolutions or fluffy self-promises arent working for you, check out these 4 reasons:
1. YOU ARE IN A HURRY AND YOU WANT RESULTS ...NOW!
The truth about change is that its a marathon, not a sprint. REAL, LIFE-LONG behavioural change takes consistent, daily focus and dedication towards your goals. It takes 30 days to begin to see a change but up to 120 days to make a lifestyle change. Your decision to change has to be backed up by actions that work , FOR YOU. The method of others can inspire your direction, but being realistic about your own actions being manageable in your day is the most important..so have you set your goals to lofty?
2. ALL THINKING / TOO MUCH THINKING & NO ACTION
Your action plan is non existent, or way too big!! If you have set the goals with no plan, really change is not going to happen. Or, if you have set your self an intricate to-do / to-achieve by list, is it really achievable and healthy?
It is important to be realistic and break things down to bite-size pieces. When you complete each step of your process, you see the progress and feel inspired to continue as you "win" each time.
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Have a think about what goals you have set yourself and ask yourself...
What is my step by step plan to achieve them?
Realistically, can I do these things everyday?
How am I supporting myself in the process? (Positive thinking, reminders, self-encouragement, support network?
Write your goals down with your realistic action steps next to them and tick off your progress as you go. Celebrate after each milestone and keep on going!
3. LOW SELF-BELIEF
Deep down, you really don’t believe in yourself, or believe you are worth the outcome.
Lack of self-belief is one of the major reason we don't do what we want in life. It’s the hidden shackles we don't realise are there and the excuse for frustration and the reason for poor attitude when we decide to give up. It is our excuse for not trying a little harder, asking for what we want and asserting ourselves when necessary.
Ask yourself, if you want something so bad, why don't you believe it's possible for you?
If you have a reason filled with IFS and BUTS and BECAUSE then you are hanging on to the past. Since today is today and what counts is what you decide today, then make the commitment today to have a different attitude and quit dragging around the story of the past or the not even happening future. Commit to change and move forward, simple. It’s all in the action!
4. YOU AREN'T ENJOYING THE PROCESS
Enjoyment is all about attitude. If you see the good, the value and the positive in what you are doing, and remove the expectations, then there is no resistance to moving forward. If you are doing something but whinging, complaining or simply just not having fun, you need to either :
A) take a different approach and plan a different course of action, or,
B) change the attitude.
Align a positive attitude with meaningful actions and you get progress, MAGIC!
In this post and the last, I have mentioned 4 of the common reasons that your Resolutions may not be working for you. If you are finding yourself stuck, then maybe it's time to phone in a Life Coach or a helping hand. In life, it sometimes just takes asking for help to be able to get unstuck and get back on track!
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